Honestly, your car is pretty close to stock. Why the hell do you need to get that serious tuning wise? Invest in a set of heads, cams, or even a supercharger. Your cars pretty slow. Make it fast, get it professionally tuned, and your good to go.
I use a name brand wheel cleaner, wipe the wheels down with a microfiber sponge, then rinse. Then dry. Easy. If im feeling it, i'll use chrome polish and wax.
I use Back to Black and it works good to start off, but it doesn't last very long.
Black Magic Quick Detailer works pretty well.
Eagle One Tire Gel is by far the worst product i have ever used. It could possibly look the best, but even if i let it dry for hours, i have tire gel speckles...
I've never had a problem with AM. I ordered Smoked Headlights and they didn't fit right, they sent me (next day) two new sets to make sure i got one that fit. Paid for all the shipping. They are great! I dont know what asshat you talked to.