atf has far more cleaning agents in it than engine oil does, but that shouldnt have cauesd any problems. it sounds like you might have overtightened the pan bolts. even with a rubber gasket and rtv you can damage the gasket to the point it wont seal if they are overtightened. when you replace the gasket again, dont use the rtv, and just tighten the pan bolts untill the gasket starts to just bulge. also check the pan and make sure the gasket surface is clean and level with no high spots around the bolt holes.