Coolant...I use the stock replacement. Usually it will be the green stuff.
Trans fluid....ATF...the brand...thats up to you. Just fill it through the shifter opening, with the top (fill) plug out. Make sure it is on level ground. When it comes out the top fill hole stop. Put the plug back in...your done. T45's and TR3650's should be 3.5-3.7 quarts.
Diff fluid...if you asked...can't remember....just over 2 quarts of fluid and one bottle on friction modifier. Some use 80W90, some go with 75W140. DO NOT OVERFILL...you will burn out your clutches. I put 3 quarts in while the rear end was out...installed it....put it on level ground...then pulled the fill plug......a lot leaked out. I put the plugs back in and drove home.