Venting...

[MyCARneedsHelp]

Im not posting this for anyone to read. Although you may if you want i just need to get some things off my mind and i figure this is one of the best ways.... Im soooo stuck in the worst situation of my life. I can find out what i want to do for a living, i can make my own choices, work where i want ect..... but now the only fork i have left SO FAR is girls.... I been dating a girl for 4 years on and off and i just dont things are working out very well. As most of you here know i been on stangnet for a long time and yes this is the same girl that left me for another dude and then wanted me back and bla bla bla bla. Well shes not a happy person, she complains, b**chs about everything, i cant hang with my friends, i cant go to the bar, i cant work on my car.... i cant do ANYTHING and i HATE IT! . Now about a year ago i met a girl that i been hanging out with and chilling with and going to the movies and good stuff, she treats me really nice and does so much for me. The only thing that sucks is that she says she likes me and wants to have somthing between us, but then i asked her out and she said no cuz she doesnt want a bf cuz she just got out of a 2 year relationship. Shes soooo loving when no one is around but then when ANY of her lil guy friends come around she basically ignores me and these guys are AAALLWAAYYYSSS at her house, even this one guy stays the night !!!! i dont know but this is bothering me sooo much and i really like both but im only happy with one but the one that im happy with doesnt want to be with me but loves me at the same time. SOME BODY HELP PPLLEEAASSEEE

 

[88stangmangt]

im not a love doctor but IMO the one causing you problems....boot her. it may be hard but if you cant stand her now why go further??? as for the other one if she isnt secure showing how she feels about you in public she may be hiding something. id give her space let her come to you....if she has tons of guys over all the time you may have to forget that one to cause she may be like a kid in a candy store....wanting anyting and everything in arms reach....do what i do in the mean time stick to the wrench.........

 

[Asha'man]

Ditch the current gf, she sounds like a complete pain in the ass. You don't need that ****, man.

The other one has you squarely in friendzville, and the other guys are either in the same place or are **** buddies.

Dump 'em both, they're just draggin' you down. Find someone who actually wants a relationship and wants you for you.

Brian

 

[kiddiccarus]

Yup Yup, You gotta ditch them both man, Hey I lived with my G/F at 17, right out of HS, married her and took her along withe mw to the Military. Maaan if i could look back and change things (but I wouldnt have my son).

You have been givin a GIFT with these two chicks. With the one that you are with you have seen how women "can" be and that is a situation that you dont want to be in. The other one, the play toy, well she is using you for the same thing and is open about it in her actions. In this you have learnt two valuable lessons.

One - A controlling woman is not what you want, you want to make decision and you want to have fun.

Two - You want a woman that will recripocate the affection that you have for them.



You obviously know that you want a commitment in your life. It is going to be hard but you should cut the ties with both these chicks and move on. believe me you can do this.


Remember I got married at 18, Divorced at 25. I LOVE that I am Divorced, well at least rid of her. I have learnt a lot from that experience though. I know what I want and I did not settle for anything less. I went to college and dated woman after woman after woman telling each that I would not settle until after graduation and that the woman I settled with would have to be Bi-sexual. Ding Ding Ding - 95% of the women that I dated in college were 1. 25-30 2. Bi-sexual 3. Divorced


I hope my ramblings helped some.

Rich

 

[Shawneebear93]

I went to college and dated woman after woman after woman telling each that I would not settle until after graduation and that the woman I settled with would have to be Bi-sexual. Ding Ding Ding - 95% of the women that I dated in college were 1. 25-30 2. Bi-sexual 3. Divorced

Back up. The woman you're "settled" with is bi-sexual?


On a serious note, I'm 20 next month and a sophomore in college and broke up with my girlfriend last month. We were together since sophomore year in high school (she's a year older). It's been way too serious at this time in my life and that's why I broke it off. I think she could be the "right girl" or whatever, but how will I know if I never see what it might be like with another girl. If she is the right girl, it'll work out in the end.
I say play the field and let it flow, it'll work out fine.

And live by this: There's a difference between the "right girl" and the "right now girl."

 

[Keasbey]

The first one is a pain in the ass.. I think she's only staying with you 'cause she can manipulate you.. some sort of.. and telling you what to do and everything..

Yeah you got sex, but I'm sure she's even complaining during the time you're doing it.. for whatever.. If you don't even get sex with this girl.. it's even worst.. hehe

And the second one is a b*tch, she can be cool and everything, but I'll say like the other guys, if she can't show affection for you in front of other people, well too bad, it won't work. You can stay friends, and I think it's better this way..

if she can't change and show you some respect.. **** off, you'll be better without her!

 

[4bangen]

duck and run man run fast, if you cant run then get in your car and drive. seriosly dont stick with eather one. I tell you from experiance, Im 23 and married, I love my wife but have had to give up maney dreams to be with her, lost friends and even given up my dream of dragracing. Just last week i finaly won that battle. you need to learn who you are and what you want before you put some one else in the mix. enjoy your friends and your car. then down the road if some one walks in to your life that knocks you off your feet than go for it. now just back up and take a breath.

 

[MyCARneedsHelp]

Yea i can see what you guys are saying... its just so fusturating. Girls dont understand how much pressure they can put on us guys. Yesterday night me and Marie ( the girl i been chillin with ) Had got into the biggest fight i ever had with her. She got all mad becuz supposivly i said somthing really mean and not kool at all. but i didnt and her stupid lil guy friend keeps telling her i did so she got all mad and wouldnt even talk to me about it and just turned her back on me and walked away and went in her house. I followed her in insisting we needed to talk but of course... im always wrong so she just ignored me and went into her room. THEEEN the guy that told her this crap called me and was like... shes upset shes crying. WELL NO ****!!! you just told her some stupid lies and now she hates me and wont even talk to me, NOT to mention its ALL YOUR FAULT .. ...... I hate the feeling of this and i hate feeling like just becuz 1 girl my whole life sucks and is falling apart slowly tearing off limb by limb, ugh . I cant thank u guys enough. I just need a lil mental support . I cant even sleep over this .

 

[79'293stang]

well ive been in sort of the same situation and it can be very very depressing wondering what the hell is going on, i just said screw it and seperated myself from the women making my life hell although i still occasionally talk to them but i dont do it enough to encourage anything other then friendship more for my sake then anything, there are lots of women in the world just keep looking around and eventually you will find the one that works for you because its far less depressing to be alone and free to play the field then to not be alone yet still feel alone...

 

[4stanger]

You young guys and your girl problems, I'll tell ya what. oops wait a minute I forget I'm 50 something and single, looks like I'm in the same boat. Honestly it don't get any better with age. You 'd think a girl my age would be desprate to find someone, and I'm not that ugly. What I've learned is that it takes time to find the right one. You shouldn't have to give up the stuff you like just to have a gf. You may have to give up a weekend once in a while to "go shopping" or something. When the bad out weights the good it's time to split. I've been seeing this lady for about a year and she actually supports my work on the car, of course she hasn't seen me put the hood or the fenders in the tub to prep em but I can give that up when the time comes. She has a garage. Go enjoy yourself, go and get laid... alot. Enjoy it while you can because like everyone else have said all of the sudden the right one will walk right up to you. Good luck my friend
vince