Ok your talking about 2 completly different things here,
Your T5 Transmission takes ATF!!!
NOT GEAR OIL
Repeat,
DO NOT PUT GEAR OIL IN YOUR T5 MANUAL OR AUTOMATIC TRANS
I use Mobil 1 Synthetic ATF for my Trans, Works like a charm, and yes 3 quarts is what u need,
For the REAR END
Thats where you use Gear oil,
And no nothing has friction modifier in it. You have to buy it seperate from Ford,
3 quarts and your Friction modifier is what you use for the rear end,
And again id suggest Synthetic Fluid