I Think you are probably goingto end up needing a chiltons on this project. Not only are they a great source of information, but you can also use it smack your brother in law in the back of the bean!
My recomendation for finding number one cylinder in your circumstance is:
Disconnect the battery.
Remove the passenger side valve cover. The pair of springs closest to the front of the car is number one.
Put a socket on the crank shaft bolt, the one that holds the pulley, and rotate the engine clock wise, until those springs begin to move.
When you see them start to move, STOP. Insert distriutor, so that the rotor is directly under the number one plug wire.Also, you need to make sure that your pointer is pointing at "zero" on the balancer. If it is not, you are 180 degrees out.
They are usually identified on the cap. If it is not, then you will have to look in said chiltons manual to identify it.
Be aware, that the stock ford oil pump drive shaft is about the size of a number two pencil, and they are well known for coming up out of the pump, when the distributor is removed. So, be aware. They are also known for being a pain to get lined up to go back into the bottom of the dist.
Then, when you have it all back together, remove the car from his possesion!
This may help:
http://www.autozone.com/az/cds/en_us/0900823d/80/1c/30/a8/0900823d801c30a8/repairInfoPages.htm