Ok for those not following my cars "issues" this is what was wrong:
1. surge demon
2. burning starter relays faster then gas
3. running hot
4. 3G alt not putting out (no not that type of out)
while all those problems were caused by 2 bad cables...pos battery to starter relay and the neg battery to block. Replaced both of them and all is well. I feel like such a Jak@ss
after fighting with it for a month. Hope this saves someone else alot of trouble shooting. Thanks to everyone for their help. 
1. surge demon
2. burning starter relays faster then gas
3. running hot
4. 3G alt not putting out (no not that type of out)
while all those problems were caused by 2 bad cables...pos battery to starter relay and the neg battery to block. Replaced both of them and all is well. I feel like such a Jak@ss
after fighting with it for a month. Hope this saves someone else alot of trouble shooting. Thanks to everyone for their help. 