My wife has her hobbies and I have mine, we both make around the same amount and so long as I don't dig into our savings and let her drive it from time to time she is happy. For big purchases, I just let her know in advance and then allow her to spend an equal amount on herself if she wishes.
A good friend of mine had a good system, he would tell his wife he borrowed like $100 dollars from me, then she would give him money to pay me back and he would stash it in a jar he kept in his garage. He would do this a couple times a month and then use the money for a big purchase for whatever project he had. So she wouldnt get suspicious he had a couple ebay accounts and would set up a fake sale to show her that he got a great deal on it. I hope after 30 years of marriage I dont end up doing all the cloak and dagger stuff for my car addiction to much work.
A good friend of mine had a good system, he would tell his wife he borrowed like $100 dollars from me, then she would give him money to pay me back and he would stash it in a jar he kept in his garage. He would do this a couple times a month and then use the money for a big purchase for whatever project he had. So she wouldnt get suspicious he had a couple ebay accounts and would set up a fake sale to show her that he got a great deal on it. I hope after 30 years of marriage I dont end up doing all the cloak and dagger stuff for my car addiction to much work.