Tremec recommends Mercon spec for the T-45, so I use plain ole' motorcraft mercron @ $2-3 per quart. However, you can also use GM Syncromesh, but this is overkill for the T-45. However, if you want to spend $11 per quart for 4 quarts then you should get the syncromesh. I am cheap so I didn't see the point.
As said, let drain and fill to just below the fill hole.