thanks guys!!
I ended up pushing them all through the factory grommet(that big ugly one).
it took some magic with a knife/screw driver/and hanger

but i got them all through it. and for anyone that plans to do this, i found the easiest way to route the wires up to the pillar. just pull the weather striping up(near door) and
slide the wires into the very spacious crack behind. maybe i'm just retarded but it took me a half hour to see it(after trying to use a hanger to push them up).
now i have a question............
I was thinking and i think the easiest and cleanest way to splice into the ignition wire(or wire that is hot when car is on)/lighting source would be to splice into the wires running to the clock.
what do you think?