what i am saying is that the guy who installed the motor and trans probably did something wrong when he did the conversion from manual to automatic. i have no hard feelings though because is a really nice guy and he didn't charge me hardly anything for all the work he did. but he is 2+ hours away and (1) i don't want to take it back to him, (2) i can't find anyone local willing to look into it, and (3) i have no garage or time at home where i can do any work on my car. so i am going to have a manual valve body installed as my "plan b" for how to deal with this situation. if it still doesn't shift correctly even with a manual valve body, then i'll come up with a plan c, probably getting the 4R70W rebuilt and using the manual VB. at that point it had better work. then i can get all the other stuff done to the car that i have planned, like new seats, paint ... but right now i just need to get this jalopy on the road.
then later, if i don't like the manual VB, i can put the standard valve body back on and get a baummanator or something