this is probably gonna be long, sorry.. Anyway, I got the o/r h pipe in July. Husband was not happy. Was going to install that weekend. He said he wanted me to take the tint off and pass inspection first, so I did. Next excuse was that he didn't want me to use the jack alone, cause I might drop the car on myself, but never made himself available... so I didn't want to drive him crazy, and just mentioned I wanted to put it on about once a month. Then about a month ago he said the jack wasn't great, and we could get a new one, then I could do it. Still no jack. So I am on vacation week after next and am determined to put it on then. Dilemma is: if I tell him I am going to buy a jack and do it, he will probably find a reason why I can't, and then it will probably be spring before I can. If I just do it without telling him, he will be furious and not speak to me for days. How do you guys think I should handle it? Any ideas...
need a guy's opinion/advice
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DocG
5th graders > me. They're not bant
Ask and you shall recieve....first, call a divorce lawyer, irreconcilable differences...any judge would understand when it comes to cars...
But seriously, you're way too nice. That's just slacking off. Either just go buy the jack, or just have it installed for what the jack would probably cost. He doesn't like it, he's had his chance. If he can't see that...he's SOL. Understandable that sometimes things come up, but in this case he's just not understanding the importance of it to you, and that's no way to treat each other.
EDIT - and if he doesn't speak to you for days, then you can just focus on how damn good your car sounds without hearing him asking for something or another.
But seriously, you're way too nice. That's just slacking off. Either just go buy the jack, or just have it installed for what the jack would probably cost. He doesn't like it, he's had his chance. If he can't see that...he's SOL. Understandable that sometimes things come up, but in this case he's just not understanding the importance of it to you, and that's no way to treat each other.
EDIT - and if he doesn't speak to you for days, then you can just focus on how damn good your car sounds without hearing him asking for something or another.
Yes, but the car is a big issue in my house. He hates that I am too into it, and it is usually the only thing we fight about, and lately he's been telling me in the "car" fights to leave and go find someone willing to build cars with me. Changes his mind after the fight, but I'd like to try not to cause one of those fights if I can help it.
DocG
5th graders > me. They're not bant
That's crazy. Do you really spend that much time being "into" your car? Does it interfere with your relationship, and if so, does he explain to you how? I can understand something consuming time and being a problem in a relationship, but usually that's not the true issue. Its typically more of a matter of what is lacking, not what's in the way. So maybe you can figure out what the underlying issue is that he's upset about....what is it that being "into" your car prevents you from bringing to the relationship.
Besides, you waiting until July to install that mid-pipe proves you're not too much into your car. Mine went on in 3 days when I got it, and my wife understood that it was my priority for the first free time I came across. Can't believe someone would threaten to leave over a car. He got insecurity issues or somethin?
Besides, you waiting until July to install that mid-pipe proves you're not too much into your car. Mine went on in 3 days when I got it, and my wife understood that it was my priority for the first free time I came across. Can't believe someone would threaten to leave over a car. He got insecurity issues or somethin?
speedfreak98r
Banned
Ma'am, I am on an endless search for a female to build cars with..Too into it? Wow..I thought that was every man's dream...Just put the pipe on..If he doesnt like it after he hears the song of teh mighty o/r h, pm me for details on my personality.bluextc said:
DocG
5th graders > me. They're not bant
Dusstbuster
I love meat more than anything! I just have a spec
Yeah major insecurity issues if he's bringing up the car as a reason for fighting/leaving. Unless you spend ALL your free time driving/working on your car i'd say your husband has some deeper issues that need to get worked out. When he thinks the car is competition for him you're either way too in to your car or he is way to insecure to be married. You're a grown woman, 18+, sure you're married to him but its your choice whether or not YOU want to "risk your life" by getting under YOUR car to put something on it. Now if he's the breadwinner of the family it's a little more reasonable to not want you to pay someone to do it but otherwise i'd tell him to shove it and grow up. BTW, A/S/L?
Sweetheart, just go down to your local muffler shop and have them put the pipe on for you. I was quoted a price of $75.00 to install a new H-Pipe, so you'd save yourself the cost of a jack and a couple of hours under your car. If your husband doesn't like it, tell him to grow up! I agree with the others that he has issues he needs to work out if the thinks of your car as competition for your affection!!! If my gal wanted me to help her work on her car, I'd do it in a heartbeat! Nothing better than getting all greasy and grimey together then getting all clean together
DocG
5th graders > me. They're not bant
Could try....naked car repairs. Each time you swear, you have to lose an article of clothing. With a mid-pipe, be naked in minutes
Just don't spray that PB Blaster on the wrong nut!
Just don't spray that PB Blaster on the wrong nut!
Dusstbuster said:Yeah major insecurity issues if he's bringing up the car as a reason for fighting/leaving. Unless you spend ALL your free time driving/working on your car i'd say your husband has some deeper issues that need to get worked out. When he thinks the car is competition for him you're either way too in to your car or he is way to insecure to be married. You're a grown woman, 18+, sure you're married to him but its your choice whether or not YOU want to "risk your life" by getting under YOUR car to put something on it. Now if he's the breadwinner of the family it's a little more reasonable to not want you to pay someone to do it but otherwise i'd tell him to shove it and grow up. BTW, A/S/L?
What's A/S/L???
And no, I don't spend all my free time on the car, I knew it was bothering him so I started only doing stang things (washing/waxing/mods) on Mondays, my day off and his day at work, so it wouldn't affect him, but then the last fight he brought up that I am spending time on the car on my day off
He is the breadwinner in the sense that he makes more money than me, but I work 40+ hours a week, so it's not like I'm sitting around doing nothing. And he did tell me to have it done at the shop, but won't approve the funds at this time, so that is out... I am thinking maybe I will just wait til the day before and act like I don't think it's a problem and say I am going out to get a jack and install it...
SamMan
New Member
Age/Sex/Location
Oh and I am quite sure there are other worse things that could distract you in life than your car. Unless your sleeping in it I think his point is pretty weak. If hes not going to allow you to put it on yourself then go get it installed. Youre a grown person and you have the right to do what you enjoy.
Oh and I am quite sure there are other worse things that could distract you in life than your car. Unless your sleeping in it I think his point is pretty weak. If hes not going to allow you to put it on yourself then go get it installed. Youre a grown person and you have the right to do what you enjoy.
LI98GTStang
Founding Member
I used ramps to install my x-pipe, not a jack. Do you have Ramps, if not a set of Rhino ramps are < $50.00.
speedfreak98r
Banned
CobraRed_96_GT
Active Member
Have him read this forum to show that its not you that thinks he's irrational...just every other guy on the planet. And whats with this couple of hours? Took me 30mins the first time, but i had a lift - i suppose w/ MIL eliminators it would be about 1-1 1/2 then. If you use jackstands then there no way him jacking up the car is going to be any safer than you. Im suprised you could wait this long, once i had all my mid and cat back exhaust parts i had em welded fitted and installed within 2 days
CobraRed_96_GT
Active Member
also find a way to inform him that 90% of men are looking for a woman w/ your attributes - yet don't say it in a way that makes him think your trying to come across as a martyr, just show him that it's not the worst thing in the world to have a hobby and good taste
CobraRed_96_GT
Active Member
Yeah if in the 1910's woman didn't ask fot the vote, us men would have gotten around for it at some point.........Kilgore Trout said:
CobraRed_96_GT
Active Member
i wasn't talking about exhaust, i was refferring to the nagging you were implying, but perhaps an analogy isn't the kind of "shiot" thats in your vocabularyKilgore Trout said:Hey I am just telling you that when you are married the wife's nagging ain't gonna motivate you to do jack shiot
I really see no correlation between exhaust install and women's rigth to vote... Where the f'k do you get this shiot???
EDIT: Exhaust work, as stated, can suck tho, need copious tools
