if you're only shooting for 400 hp, i'd stick witht he stock stroke 351w. A simple performer rpm package can be added (just get the performer rpm heads, intake, 750 cfm carb, and cam, pair with an exhaust/igntion and you're there, without even looking at gains you can get from slightly different manifolds or cams). You only really need a 393/408 if you're planning on going for over 500 (usually well over).
With the Performer RPM package i mentioned above you'll be making at least 400 at the fly (edelbrocks website has a dyno graph of it hitting 406), and peak power will be at 6200-6300 rpms, which isn't too aggressive. And if those 200 or so rpms do matter, you can bring the power band down with minor exhaust and cam tweaks, even just timing it differently.
As for heads, I believe that Performer RPMs and Trick Flow are the best bang for the buck. A Victor would be a bad choice for an engine that is intended for arond 6k and below use. An Air Gap won't fit under the stock hood of a 65/66 with a 351w. A Stealth or standard Performer RPM intake would work fine. You do not need forged components unless running very high compression, nitrous, or forced induction, none of which are required to meet your goals. If you are going to use nitrous a lot, forged pistons might be a good idea, but still not absolutely necessary.
And the 3 speed is useless as far as performance goes, to my knowledge. A C4 would be better, but a Toploader 4 speed might be easier and even better. Up to you, whether you want to bang gears or cruise.