I'm detecting a slight hint of the putrid smell of the big-parts-hurt-torque myth in this thread.
As you can see in my sig, I've got TW 205s on my 302. A TW 205 is supposedly the equivalent to a AFR 215-220 in terms of port cross section (yep, a TW 205 is a bigger head than an AFR 205).
My car does not suffer from any lack of torque.
Now, I'm not telling you to go put 205s on your car (it ain't cheap!). But, I'm using it as an example to demonstrate that AFR 185s are NOT too big for a 302. Not at all. Match the cam, intake, and exhaust properly, and a 185 headed 302 could potentially be a pretty badass little motor. There is, of course, the issue of piston to valve clearance with stock 302 pistons.
I would consider AFR 185s a bare, bare minimum for a 351. Enyawix, I think you would be doing nothing but limiting yourself with 165s on a 351.