Mean Wife

Yeah, sometimes you just have to slow down the spending to keep the misses happy. 1/2 off divorce sells never end well.

BlackGoose699 said:

Ok wife added up the money I have spent on my car last year and said I need to cut back on spending. So we can save for a vacation (she didn't like the fact I say the drag strip is a vacation).
So I am at the point where I still have stuff I want to do with the car. What should I do?

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vacations suck!!!

She gets half the car in a divorce LOL.

Mustang5L5 said:

Cheaper to keep her. Just remember that.

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This. Lying or hiding things always goes poorly. Have a discussion and set reasonable limits so that you enjoy your hobby and she supports your hobby.

As an example- I've cut back on spending on the areas that are not that important and spread my mustang projects over time - both of these factors allow me to have allowed me to build a MM suspension, full Bolton, maxed out short block 2v. There is always more to add on ..... (planning out forged internals now) but everyone is happy because we are both inside our budget and get to buy the fun things we like.

10k in motor parts / install / tune is a major investment. Spread it out and keep her in the loop about your plans. If you set a budget with her you will be surprised how much you can do and how happy she will stay.

I have 5 mustangs. Four of them are project cars. I'd hate to see a tally of how much I've actually spent on them. But I always tell her how much. We've skipped vacation for the last few yrs because of it. But I make most of the money and pay 99% of the bills. I also point out that after your vacation, you don't have much to show for it. A nice car (or 4) is something that will still be there after you spend money on it. Maybe not a good investment, but better than a week at the beach. She's wanting to go on a vacation, but I'm the one working my tail off to pay the bills. So I prefer to spend my money on cars. If she wants to make some decisions, then she can start footing the bill for stuff. Last I checked, I paid for the dishwasher when it went out. House payment. Car payment. Insurance. Utilities. Home repairs/upgrades. Car repairs/service. Our dog's $2600 knee surgery (with the other knee scheduled for another $2600 surgery). I'm a good guy and she has a nice, easy, comfortable life because I break my back on a regular basis. So although I'm nice about it, she can spend her money on vacations if she wants. What little bit of money I have left over after paying nearly 100% of our living expenses, I'm spending on what makes me happy. She works part time. She makes decent money, for what she does. Basically, almost all the money she earns is play money. I work WAY more than she does and almost all my money goes to cover expenses.

And it's not like she doesn't like cars. In fact, I've spent most of my car money on restoring an 88gt that I'm giving to her. I bet I've invested over $10k on it just in the last 2 yrs. After all the physical and mental stress I've accrued after years of hard work, there's a 95% chance she will outlive me by a good bit. Once I'm gone, she will have thousands and thousands of dollars worth of cars and guns she can sell. I also have a hefty life insurance policy and she will have enough money to pay off all debt and take as many vacations as she wants!

Rant over. Lol

All I'll say about it is if you're prioritizing a car and the time and money you'd rather spend with it over the woman in your life,...You really don't have a woman in your life. May as well just get a cat and be done with it.