Alright now BDT my boy, listen up....
With a name like Carlo I couldn't help but reply to this thread. First off, it's GRAVY! That red stuff on your spaghetti is not just some red SAUCE.
This is where the majority of the meal's flavor and appeal lies. If you enjoy to cook, and it appears you do, then a good gravy is the focal point of any meal. There are two things that either make or break a restaurant for me: texture/taste of gravy and texture/taste of the chicken.... but that's for another time.
To get this meal right you need to cover all the angles. A good bread (Garlic bread is nice, but a soft Italian bread is fun to break and, if the gravy is good, use for dipping.) You can also put a nice shallow dish of olive oil with pepper, and other various Italian spices in it for a good taste. Normally I put garlic and whatever other herbs I have laying around in this. It just adds another level to your meal.
As for the main course, find out if she has a thing for Ravioli, Gnocchi, or if she prefers a simple spaghetti. If you haven't prepared them before you'll probably want to stick with an easy spaghetti dish.
On to the GRAVY! My Nana was famous for never using recipes, so the amounts of everything still get me from time to time. The best is to put a bit of oil in the bottom of your pot, chop some garlic and let it get the flavor out. I then add a large can of crushed tomatoes (16 ounces I believe), and two small cans(6 ounces I believe) of tomato paste (Let me look at the cans tomorrow and I'll get you ounce sizes) You need about 8-10 ounces of water (I'll check again tomorrow) to make it the right consistency. Garlic salt, pepper, salt, a dash of these spices, a dash of those (basil etc. your local supermarket will probably sell a bottled Italian herbs type seasoning).... to be honest I just add stuff in different amounts while I let it simmer until I get a taste I like. Simmer on your lowest setting for 3-3.5 hours, stirring regularly (Burning the gravy really isn't a good taste). If you have a gas stove, and the flame causes the bottom of the pot to burn the gravy, get another spacer between the two.
Oh, my sauce is a marinara, no meat. The girlfriend is a vegetarian, I personally don't need a meat sauce. My comments about gravy are just how I was raised, as it was just a translational thing with sauce vs gravy. In Italy meat gravy is not an everyday type thing and the word for a thick sauce was translated to this by early immigrants.
If she does eat meat, sausage is easy. If you were in the Philly area I'd send you some of my family's... but you're not.
Finally, I like a good Chianti. I think Carlo Rossi Chianti is a decent buy. It comes in a large bottle and it's not a bad wine. Unless you happen to have an uncle or three that makes their own wine
Wow, so I wrote a book. For dessert, well... you won't need to prepare anything after she ate your dinner. :SNSign: