Check around the plug wires, around the primaries of the headers and oil dipstick. I had from how you described-a similar problem. Ended up being the plug boot next to the oil dipstick. It was arcing before getting to the spark plug. You can try going outside at night when its pitch black, unplugging the hood light and starting the car. Make sure the wheels are chocked and the e-brake is on then have someone rev the car thru the rpm range and look for sparks around the plug wires and whatnot. Also if there is any corrosion on the plug boots that could lead you to the problem. Good luck, hope I didn't confuse more than help.
Nick