Need help. I'm kinda depressed!

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I work with a girl that I really like. When she first started working there, I seen her and was blown away. I thought she was too good for me, but one day she stop by my office to intoduce herself to me. I didn't think much of it at the time, but then we started talking a little on Myspace. Then she would sometimes walk by my office and wink at me and smile. Well this went on for a few weeks and one day she brought me some orange juice in the mourning and left it on my desk. I finally got up the balls to ask her out and she accepted and we went out and had a good time. She told me that we should definately do it again sometime, then she told me the same thing the next day in a text message. Then two days later, she told me that we should do it again sometime. She told me three times that we should do it again sometime, so after the third time, I called and asked her out again. We made plans but the day that we were going to go out, she was sick and texted me to see if I would take a rain check. Of coarse I said yes. Well the next day I saw her at work and asked when she wanted to reschedule the date. She said she was unsure because she was really busy that week. Well, I texted her the next day to see if she wanted to go to lunch. She texted back that "she thought I was a great guy, but that she thought we should just keep it a friend thing for now".

Well for the next few weeks, we still talked often and she would still give me hugs and flirt a little. Then she would act strange and barely talk to me at times. This has gone on for about three months like this.

I still really like this girl because one, she is extremely hot, two, we have alot in common, three, the date that we had was the best date I've ever been on. She is just alot of fun to be around.

She did just graduate college last Saturday, so I don't know if school had anything to do with it. Most of her flirting and things that she done was before her semester started.

Do I still have a chance with this girl and if so, what approach should I take?
 
ahh yes girls. that is the one thing that can drive us crazier than our cars do.

Ive learned that it is IMPOSSIBLE to ever try and figure out why a girl does something. It is also pointless to ever ask "Why?". When a girl does something like that and pulls a compete 180, its best to forget it and move on. Sure, ive been led on and have been fooled before. In those times its just best to move on. If something is going to happen, let her be the one to do it since she was the one to just change her mind. This is the same advice i give to my freinds, yet sometimes its even hard for me to follow my own words :(
 
move on.

i could get into a great amount of detail about why i say what i say...
but really, you won't give a **** anyway.

chances are you won't even take my advice.

but i'll tell you another thing.

if you move on, and she realizes you're moving on, it might be enough to bring her back.
that is THE only way you will get her.

that you must accept.

and another thing. you are not her friend, so if you start becoming one, i'll lose all respect for you.

remember: you are the coolest ****ing **** on the planet. and have no time for her crap... a state of mind is half the battle, so use it.

move on.
 
what i'd usually do is just be flat out and ask her what the hell's going on, but that usually doesn't work.... heh. guess cause it goes against the "i'm the f***in *****" attitude that tames women, so i suggest you not do that.
 
Hey man I 've been in those shoes .The best thing you can do is go out somewhere and meet other girls maybe you'll find someone better and if she finds out you are going out with somebody else that will get her jealous and she'll beg you to go out again if she was really interested.My advise is to not get too attached to her even though you seem pretty hooked on her go out and race the stang chicks dig when you show off a little in your car and look for other girls there's pretty of fish in the sea. Good Luck man
 
Couple of things. First of all, I completely agree that mind games work pretty well alot of times (the whole moving on thing), but as you said you keep getting drawn back. If you really want to know give yourself some piece of mind and get an answer from her. Ask her why she seemed so interested then just crashed. Because she was clearly showing alot of interest. Second thing is, you destroyed yourself if you got put in the friends zone. Should've kissed her on the first date and killed the possibility of being put in the friends zone. Third, don't get your hopes up cause it sounds like she found another guy. Good luck man.
 
Ok. For the guys that haven't been married, she was prolly "raggin' and horny" when she went out with you the first time. Then she got over it. Happens every 28 days. You'll NEVER be able to figure her out. It's a rule. Find another (some other) girl(s) to have fun with. Act like you can't be "tamed" and they'll be all over you. Move on.
 
move on.

i could get into a great amount of detail about why i say what i say...
but really, you won't give a **** anyway.

chances are you won't even take my advice.

but i'll tell you another thing.

if you move on, and she realizes you're moving on, it might be enough to bring her back.
that is THE only way you will get her.

that you must accept.

and another thing. you are not her friend, so if you start becoming one, i'll lose all respect for you.

remember: you are the coolest ****ing **** on the planet. and have no time for her crap... a state of mind is half the battle, so use it.

move on.

the pimp has spoken :hail2:

gather your balls together, and go after one of her friends.
 
Women are full of shat. If she acts interested, then doesn't, then does again...She probably has something up her sleeve. God forbid a cool guy meets a woman who doesn't screw around or play freakin headgames 24/7. :notnice: Good luck with your journey.
 
I agree with Doug.....and here is my 2 cents......there was another dude somewhere in the picture...somewhere somehow....she wasn't sure or was waiting.....
now the more she knows you are into her she "knows" she has you.......women hate to be ignored.....stop asking her out or whatever...speak to her when you see her in a kind of " oh what's up" way...no biggee and always be the in a good mood no problems kinda guy around her but don't offer up any compliments.......and what would really kill her......have a hot chick come meet you at work and take you to lunch...............even if its a friends sister but make no big deal of it..........when she tries to act interested in you................stone cold.....
 
i can't remember who said it best but,
8 simple words:
Don't let this rape turn into murder

maybe there is another guy in the picture, and maybe its you. maybe she is using you to make another guy she likes better jealous. i would just ignore it till she comes around wanting the sausage.
 
move on.

i could get into a great amount of detail about why i say what i say...
but really, you won't give a **** anyway.

chances are you won't even take my advice.

but i'll tell you another thing.

if you move on, and she realizes you're moving on, it might be enough to bring her back.
that is THE only way you will get her.

that you must accept.

and another thing. you are not her friend, so if you start becoming one, i'll lose all respect for you.

remember: you are the coolest ****ing **** on the planet. and have no time for her crap... a state of mind is half the battle, so use it.

move on.


wow some good advice there :nice:

oh and don't ever think something is too good for you, you have to think positively and as caldwell said your the coolest f'er on planet.
Looks aren't everything, attitude is important too.

Yea and watch out for friend status, your interested in more then friendship obviously so act it.
 
I agree with Doug.....and here is my 2 cents......there was another dude somewhere in the picture...somewhere somehow....she wasn't sure or was waiting.....
now the more she knows you are into her she "knows" she has you.......women hate to be ignored.....stop asking her out or whatever...speak to her when you see her in a kind of " oh what's up" way...no biggee and always be the in a good mood no problems kinda guy around her but don't offer up any compliments.......and what would really kill her......have a hot chick come meet you at work and take you to lunch...............even if its a friends sister but make no big deal of it..........when she tries to act interested in you................stone cold.....

stick with this and everything will be ok
 
Thanks guys for all the advise. I'm going to move on and try and stay away from her so that I don't get drawn back to her again. I'm kinda talking to a couple more girls now, so maybe things will work out for the best this way.
 
I completely agree with all the people that are saying to move on. I hate to say it, but it IS a game, and whether or not you like it, you gotta play it if you wanna get anywhere in life.

Women want what they can't have, and right now, she knows you're sitting there waiting for her. To show up with a new attitude of "ah well, who cares" will leave her wondering what you have that she's missing out on, and will start to act in ways that you want her to

If, for some god foresaken reason, it doesn't work like it does 98% of the time, and things don't work out, then you've just saved yourself future hardships, and you can start railing other girls.

The friend zone is dangerous....getting too far into it will result in you hearing stories about other people she has feelings for, and that won't help your emotions out very well at all

all this has already been said, but i just figured i would reiterate it since it worked for me, and I'm still with this girl after 2 1/2 years