OT: Girlfriend + Mustang = Disaster - What can I do???
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Nik_95Cobra
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wow, we dont have many ladies men or romantics here.
ok all you guys are interpreting this differently from what he actually posted.
first of, how old are you?
next some words of wisdom.....
do NOT talk about your car when you are with her, do not talk about racing, do not talk about what you want to do, etc etc. If you need to paraphrase and spend no more than 30 secodns on the topic.
the only time talking about stuff you want is an ok idea is when you have a birthay or something coming up
use the time that you have when she is busy to work on your car. For example, my girl plays soccer for the university so I have time while she is at practice to lift work on my car or do whatever. then i get to spend every other available minute with her doing stuff.
If for some reason you have a project you need to do, make a day of it, or a party. invite some friends and fire up the bar B que pit and get some drinks and have a good time. she wont mind this near as much as what it is now.
You cant blame her for wanting to spend more time with her, that just means she likes you.
the majority of young relationships end over not spending enough time together. its either that or infedelity, and your cheating on her with your car
ok all you guys are interpreting this differently from what he actually posted.
first of, how old are you?
next some words of wisdom.....
do NOT talk about your car when you are with her, do not talk about racing, do not talk about what you want to do, etc etc. If you need to paraphrase and spend no more than 30 secodns on the topic.
the only time talking about stuff you want is an ok idea is when you have a birthay or something coming up
use the time that you have when she is busy to work on your car. For example, my girl plays soccer for the university so I have time while she is at practice to lift work on my car or do whatever. then i get to spend every other available minute with her doing stuff.
If for some reason you have a project you need to do, make a day of it, or a party. invite some friends and fire up the bar B que pit and get some drinks and have a good time. she wont mind this near as much as what it is now.
You cant blame her for wanting to spend more time with her, that just means she likes you.
the majority of young relationships end over not spending enough time together. its either that or infedelity, and your cheating on her with your car
blksn955.o
Founding Member
I am kinda lucky in this aspect as mine was well trained by her father, but she still gets that way every once and a while. Like we are saving for a house and she has been getting on me about the mustang. Well I see her point house v. car I would rather have a house. Like others say its still a GF, not a wife. If she will not be practicle(sp?) leave her, even a wife would let someone save a little extra every week to put to the hobby.
maypo59
New Member
Boy I hate it for nearly all of you. My wife and I have had a bunch of stangs together and at one time had his and hers.. We both lament a couple we let get away, and the last time we had any words about the current one was when I started the spring/shock install without her...
Stump1000
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i agree with 95snoozer, all girls are gonna want you to spend time with them instead of working on your car. You just have to deal with it. Having a girlfriend means you have to give a little too.
DougNuts
Founding Member
I would probably get rid of her myself. My girlfriend knows the mustang is here to stay and that as soon as I get a job I'm going to start dumping all of my money into it. She's cool with it. Her only rule is not to spend money we don't have on cars.
Jose. (st8stang032) ditched his Mustang for his girlfriend/fiancee. PM him and see how he's doing!
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5.0_GT_kid
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Nik_95Cobra
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I thank my x for a lot of the mods on mine, every time we broke up I bought something big for it. 
5.0_GT_kid
20+ Year Stangneter
Nik_95Cobra said:I thank my x for a lot of the mods on mine, every time we broke up I bought something big for it.
MysteryMachine
Active Member
Hell I tell my gf's before we start going out I will never get rid of my car so don't ask you got a problem with it to bad. lol the 2 that I Have had havent had a problem of course the first one I only had the 66 then and never did anything to it. My gf now likes to watch me work on my cars says it hot and turns her on lol and tells me of things she thinks about doing on or in the car but I'm to busy for that gotta get it running lol
Road_Runna
20+ Year Stangneter
Lucklly, the only one I have to listen to is my 5 year old daughter, and she actually supports me, making my car faster. I am so lucky.
My 2 cents: There are some chicks that just don't like to see a guy happy, wether it be a hobby or what not. Something that i've learned from relationships is that there has to be compromises made. If your willing enough to change the channel on a football game, then they should be willing to let you work on the car. Assuming that all your money isn't going straight to Performance MODS, I see no reason for them to get mad. But then again that's just my opinion.
My 2 cents: There are some chicks that just don't like to see a guy happy, wether it be a hobby or what not. Something that i've learned from relationships is that there has to be compromises made. If your willing enough to change the channel on a football game, then they should be willing to let you work on the car. Assuming that all your money isn't going straight to Performance MODS, I see no reason for them to get mad. But then again that's just my opinion.
95GTeee
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All ya gotta do is tell her that instead of working on your car - BY YOURSELF, IN THE GARAGE ... how about you going out to the bars, clubs, whatever ... meeting new people (girls) and making new friends to possibly take you away even more often - with or without her? Also, would it be better if you decided not to work on your car, have to pay someone else to do it and have less money for the two of you?
Those are just some of the arguments I have had with ex-girlfriends about the EXACT same kinda thing. Girls like to feel like they are the most important thing/person in your life ... not your car. It's just gonna happen. I have had a few g/f's that were very cool with me working on cars - but they normally had their own things to do. Good luck with her, and if she's important enough to you - make the compromise, just remember it when she does the same with something SHE feels is important. Good luck man!
Those are just some of the arguments I have had with ex-girlfriends about the EXACT same kinda thing. Girls like to feel like they are the most important thing/person in your life ... not your car. It's just gonna happen. I have had a few g/f's that were very cool with me working on cars - but they normally had their own things to do. Good luck with her, and if she's important enough to you - make the compromise, just remember it when she does the same with something SHE feels is important. Good luck man!
Your g/f, whom I assume is hot, or you wouldn't be putting up with this ****, is having one of several reactions, (1) he's not spending enough time with me, or (2) he's wasting his time on something pointless, (3) working on a car is degrading, or a combo of the above.
For (1), the best way to solve this is to take her out for some together time. Then, when that together time has gone on for a while, and you've presumably both had a good time, tell her you want to talk about the Mustang, and how it's very important to you, and that while it is important to you, you want to come to an agreement on reasonable times to work on your car. Set some sort of schedule with her, and even if it isn't any different from when you work on your car now, I guarantee her mood will improve because she'll feel included, that her opinion matters to you, and that you were willing to compromise on the Mustang for her sake. Which are all pretty big things for girls.
For (2), you have to explain the Mustang hobby in girl language. Whoever hit upon the "shoes" thing brought up a very important point: girls need things explained to them in terms they understand.
Car guys spend time leafing through car mags for parts ideas; girls spend time window shopping for shoes.
Car guys can spend endless amounts of time working on their car; girls can spend endless amounts of time trying every single possible combination of shoes/accessories/hairstyles/clothing before deciding on an outfit to go out in.
Are you asking her to give up her shoe collection? Of course not. Is it hard to understand why she needs 50+ pairs of shoes, most of which never see light outside of the closet? Of course... but you don't ****** about it, you realize her shoes are important to her, and it's something that you wouldn't try to change about her. If she has a hobby, you can use that to strengthen your argument, but the shoes argument worked well with my g/f-turned-wife. She still doesn't understand fully the whole working on the car thing, but she doesn't try to change it about me either.
As for (3), believe it or not, a lot of girls equate working on the car => trashy, because of several things: all of the ******* ricers they see who work on their cars, Jeff Foxworthy (that 12 Redneck Days of Christmas song does NOT help), or they believe it's beneath somebody to work on their car when they can afford to pay somebody else to do it.
For this one, you'll have to explain, in detail, why those stereotypes exist and why they don't apply to you. You'll also have to assure her that you're not becoming a ricer wanker or a redneck.
My then-g/f was mostly (2), with a little (3). Now everyone's (mostly) happy, and all it took was good communication.
For (1), the best way to solve this is to take her out for some together time. Then, when that together time has gone on for a while, and you've presumably both had a good time, tell her you want to talk about the Mustang, and how it's very important to you, and that while it is important to you, you want to come to an agreement on reasonable times to work on your car. Set some sort of schedule with her, and even if it isn't any different from when you work on your car now, I guarantee her mood will improve because she'll feel included, that her opinion matters to you, and that you were willing to compromise on the Mustang for her sake. Which are all pretty big things for girls.
For (2), you have to explain the Mustang hobby in girl language. Whoever hit upon the "shoes" thing brought up a very important point: girls need things explained to them in terms they understand.
Car guys spend time leafing through car mags for parts ideas; girls spend time window shopping for shoes.
Car guys can spend endless amounts of time working on their car; girls can spend endless amounts of time trying every single possible combination of shoes/accessories/hairstyles/clothing before deciding on an outfit to go out in.
Are you asking her to give up her shoe collection? Of course not. Is it hard to understand why she needs 50+ pairs of shoes, most of which never see light outside of the closet? Of course... but you don't ****** about it, you realize her shoes are important to her, and it's something that you wouldn't try to change about her. If she has a hobby, you can use that to strengthen your argument, but the shoes argument worked well with my g/f-turned-wife. She still doesn't understand fully the whole working on the car thing, but she doesn't try to change it about me either.
As for (3), believe it or not, a lot of girls equate working on the car => trashy, because of several things: all of the ******* ricers they see who work on their cars, Jeff Foxworthy (that 12 Redneck Days of Christmas song does NOT help), or they believe it's beneath somebody to work on their car when they can afford to pay somebody else to do it.
For this one, you'll have to explain, in detail, why those stereotypes exist and why they don't apply to you. You'll also have to assure her that you're not becoming a ricer wanker or a redneck.
My then-g/f was mostly (2), with a little (3). Now everyone's (mostly) happy, and all it took was good communication.
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