I would mildly port the headers if there are some rough spots, but be careful because there isnt a lot of meat there.
If your heads are cast iron, id get a nice stone to be used in a die grinder. You can use a dremel, but it takes forever. You could buy some Carbide porting bits on ebay to help you along, but be forwarned...they are VERY aggressive when used for porting.
I suggest a felpro 1250 gasket for your intake ports. You can go with a 1262, but thats a BIG MOFO. Like you said, trace the gasket around the ports. I port all the way to the lines on a 1250 gasket. I start with each of the corners in the port, and then the top and bottom and sides to match. BE CAREFUL!!! DO NOT BREAK INTO A WATER JACKET>>>>DO NOT BREAK INTO A PUSHROD HOLE!!! You can see how much you are taking off, but look at all of the metal residue to see how much you have really taken off...dont over do it.
For the exhaust ports, I like to use this gasket made by...I think either Earl's or Mr, Gasket. it is a metal gasket with graphite inserts for the ports. The ports are pretty big when you buy this gasket. its pricey though..I think about $40/pair...but they are reuseable and you can actually port the inserts if you want!
As for bowl work.....i cant help you much there....just smooth all of the jagged edges and be sure not to over do it. Make sure the heads are disassembled too. DO NOT port the combustion chamber. If you do, you will make it bigger and lose compression. Plus, you could mess up the valve seats.
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