Just re-read post and have some further questions.
Was the added material for the subframe connector at the front end of the connector? If it was, that would make sense. I would bet your chassis is twisted then. Driver front bent down (or passenger rear down). Here's why. You said you had to loosen the passenger front coil-over. That would transfer more weight to passenger front to level the front end. This would rotate chassis and cause passenger rear to move down. Since front weighs more, your adjustment in passenger rear is now having to rotate car toward driver side front (essentially trying to untwist the chassis because driver front really doesn't want to go down lower), which is why it is so hard to raise.
If my theory is right, when you put your car up on 4 jack stands the passenger rear jack stand will need to be shorter than the driver rear (or if you preset jack stands the same height, the driver side will not be touching).
If you put the car up on jack stands, take a pic from on the floor at the front of car looking back at jack stands. Do same from rear as well. Also, a pic of the modified subframe connector.