side note, is there really only two bolts holding the transmission to that crossmember.
Assuming you're talking about the stock pieces: yes, 2 long bolts through the cross member holding that to the body, 2 bolts holding the mount to the transmission, and 2 studs from the mount and through the crossmember holding the transmission down. The long bolts are really the only ones doing much work in the scheme of things, and that's not really work given that the engineers were counting on their shear strength. While there is torque transmitting through that end of everything, it's minimal compared to the engine mounts, so all that stuff is really doing is holding the transmission end of the assembly in place.