You can get ARP Moly Lube from Summit or ARP themselves.
As far as going into aluminum heads, never go more than 18ftlbs. I always go to 18ftlbs on mine. I was told by DSS that if you go to the factory torque rating it will actually start to lift the aluminum head off the blokc a little ways. Since the aluminum is lightweight it will actually do this(given it is very very little) and then you will stand the chance of blowing head gaskets.
It sounds impossible but even if its not true, 18ftlbs still holds up just fine and less of a chance of pulling the threds out of the head.
Another suggestion. Run your tap and then get as long of a bolt that fits in the hole. Make it go all the way to the bottom of the hole and hopefully there is enough threads at the bottom to grab Just be careful not to bottom the bolt out before hitting your torque spec.
I use antiseeze on all my bolts/fastners that thread into aluminum(upper-lower, lower to head, sparkplugs) Just dotn get antiseeze on the sparkplug tip, then you'll have a completly different problem.