I know exactly what you're saying except I really love doing this. I have my younger boys with me (the 18 and 20 year olds) today too. I'm enjoying it.
You can do the extra with the tubing. I'm not overly worried about mine. I measured three times to some exact locations and I just need to put the new frame rail back there.
I'm not dismissing your fear or maybe paranoia is a better word. The more paranoid you are, the more likely you are to have a successful outcome. Unless of course you're one of those people who's paranoia freezes the in place, then I've got nothing for you.
Luckily for me I have a frame machine if things go too haywire!
The main part I'm not looking forward to is dealing with the rust. I'll actually enjoy putting it back together...and the end result of a job well done. I may also have to remove/reinstall the rear quarter due to somebody not putting it on straight (at least that's what it looks like). I'm a sheet metal fabricator by trade, so I'm always up to a challange. If you're going off factory dimensions, it'll turn out just fine.
Looking forward to see more of your car as it progresses.